Online Support Groups?
When you turn vegan, one of
the first steps you take is to join an online vegan chat group – to find
support of course. And then, surprisingly, you witness group members at
loggerheads with each other. You wonder if you’ve missed something here. Here
are people who talk about compassion for animals and all that, but where is their patience, tolerance and compassion to hear out genuine doubts. Of course, many times there are
troublemakers, whose purpose is just that. But not all who ask difficult questions are troublemakers.
There will be questions that challenge one’s
idea of veganism, but should that call for aggressive reactions, or for
careful thought. You are laying the foundation of a concept. Instead one finds
the attitude of –‘how can anyone even get a thought that uses animals, its
sacrilege!’ I feel it does more harm than good to the cause. You, as a
beginner, get scared to verbalize your concerns! Furthermore, instead of
providing support, all it provides is guilt, fear, self-doubt. One cannot dare
to ask what to do when a dilemma presents. You know the reply. Every situation
is seen in one light. “The meaning of veganism should not get diluted.” Period.
That is most sacred to a vegan.
Should it be so? Should it
induce fights and name-calling? Here is someone who is trying to take baby
steps towards a good cause. But God forbid, if he loses his balance, he’s going
to be kicked on his butt! Well..?!
Compassion is about extending
one’s love. Before aggressive reactions, one needs to separate the wheat from
the chaff! Is the person really a troublemaker or is he faltering and looking
for support? Does he need a firm hand to put him in line or does he just need a
hand to steady himself? Is veganism about external appearances or a personal
choice? One needs to understand that veganism for everyone may not mean – proving
a point to the world or displaying a loftier than thou attitude. It takes all
kinds of people to make a world. The vegan world too will have all kinds. Don’t expect everyone to be an activist and be
prepared with a lecture – even to enlighten others! One ought to accept those
people too who are satisfied with self-change only. They want to enjoy that
feeling within, that comes from a positive transformation of any kind. Have the
compassion to understand that; to let him enjoy in his own space. Maybe when he has
derived all the pleasure from his transformation he’ll come with a bang! ….or maybe not!
Accept him anyway.
I might accept physical
aggression on the field, in an attempt to save an animal from slaughter, but on
a chat forum for presenting a thought – no I don’t. Veganism is about love and
compassion, not about the precision of its definition. Agreed it’s a concept
just taking shape, so spread its definition, rather than negativity. If vegans
have to resort to name-calling, which, by the way, is aggressive too, then
where is the compassion? ….or is
compassion just a word to use for convenience's sake? When a heart is truly filled with love and
compassion, it behaves without aggression – with all. There is nothing like
selective compassion. If a person gets aggressive on chat forums, does that
make him/her more vegan?
Note- The pronoun him is not
meant to refer only to males but to people of all genders. Him is used only for
convenience of writing.
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